How To Overcome Fear Of Success

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Fear of Success is very real. I know, it sounds silly. Why would anyone fear success? We all want success, right? Or do we? What beliefs to we have that are holding us back? Michael talks about five fears that may be holding you back from reaching your level of success and steps we can take to overcome them.

Here you will learn about various fears that you might not even know you have inside of you. Fears such as: Fear of those around you, Losing your current lifestyle, Fear of change and more.

In removing the various fears of success you need to apply different thought processes. Some once identified can be eliminated by recognizing that they are simply nothing more than childhood playground incidences. You are not a child anymore so you don’t have to let those dictate who and what you are today.

Others will require more effort on your part as they’re very deeply ingrained in to you. This is not a bad thing, it’s just another step on your way to living the life you desire. 

Fears often stem from something I call Nonsensical Rules. These are rules that we were taught when we were young. These are the rules that get past down from generation to generation. Rules that were once useful and in some cases necessary for a culture to develop in a harmonious manner. This is not true all these generations later since we live in a more global world today.

We can study and learn from various cultures. We can choose the rules that best suit our lifestyle today and even identify with the ones that will help us grow and become the person that we want to become. We can teach our children that it is a good thing to question basic beliefs and allow them to grow in to a far more aware person.

Of course there are some rules we must follow such as the laws of the land. You certainly can’t go wrong in following the golden rule. The key is in questioning which rules are real and which are Nonsensical Rules.

An example of a Nonsensical Rule is based in a religious belief that you are born a sinner. This belief can and has lead people to believe that they are not worthy or deserving. On one hand a person wants to believe that they can have a happier more satisfying life On the other hand they are not worthy? Which will prevail? Will either? To me this is a nonsensical Rule as it does more harm than good in today’s world. We must believe that we can do great things to help humanity. For this we must remove old outdated Nonsensical Rules and implement new lasting rules that help us grow in to contributing happy people.

When you are able to remove these terrible fears, you will have taken a huge step to reaching your level of success.

Transcript of the video How To Overcome Fear Of Success

Hey It's Michael Edward creator of How To Crush Your Mental Blocks In 4 Weeks. Which is a course that teaches you how to identify and remove those mental blocks that's stopping you from reaching your level of success.

Today I want to talk about How To Overcome Fear Of Success. What fear of success is, and why does it impact us and some methods of getting over it. Fear of success is a real thing. I know, it sounds like an oxymoron. How can somebody fear success? I think as we go through the points, you'll see why. Fear of success can rear its ugly little head in a number of different ways. For me, a lot of these points I'm going to cover today were an issue for me. I sabotaged myself many times and probably you did too and have and you may continue to. . We're going to try and stop that right here and now. We're going to try and show you why you're fearing success and we'll touch on some methods to help you get over that fear of success.

Number 1. Fear of those closest to you.
See, the people who are closest to us can be our greatest supporters or they can be the most negative people in our lives. That really depends on who you have around you. Some people will say that people around me are going to laugh if I say, I'm going to start a business They’re going to laughing say, you're going to start a business? What do you think you can start a business with. I'm going to lose weight or I'm going to get in to really great physical shape. You! You've done nothing all your life but sit there and eat junk and sit on the couch. You! You know. Obviously that's a fear is being laughed at and so on and so forth. Now what you got to do is you got to take this one and just say. You know what? I have a dream. I'm going to do whatever it takes to reach that dream. If those around me laugh at me It's just going to make me more determined to say, watch my dust baby, watch my dust, here I go.

Number 2. It's too hard.
Whatever it is you want to do. It's too hard! Well yeah! Sometimes things are hard. There's no question about it. If you think about the various successes you've had in your life and you think about what once was hard is now simple. It's because you learned how to do something. I like to say, everything is hard until you learn how to do it. My kids would say, geeze dad that's too hard. I'd say, of course it's hard, you don't know how to do it. Then I'd show them how to do it and they'd laugh. This isn't hard. Of course it's not hard. If you think about your first job for example. You might have been excited, you might have been really nervous about it and you might have been intimidated by all these people who are just floating around you and seaming to do things with no effort what so ever. Your still in the struggle state. It's hard, it is hard to get started. But within ... depends on your job, within a week or two weeks or a month, you too were flying around and doing everything just so and it was no longer hard. So, you have to look back at those successes and say that, I was able to take something that I thought was hard then and learn it and now it's no longer hard. You can do that to conquer that fear of success. Just allow yourself the time to grow and learn. Allow yourself the time to develop the skills that you need to move forward. Ok? Be kind to yourself. Don't be so hard on yourself. And always, always, always take a moment to be proud of yourself for the little wins. The little wins become big wins. The more little wins you have the more you keep going and going and going. Alright? So celebrate your little successes.

Number 3. Most people are afraid of change.
Change is inevitable, you changed all through your life. Depending on your age now, you may not have changed a whole lot in the last five, ten years but that's not always good. If you want to change things in your life, you have to change things in your life. This one makes me crazy because people will say, but I don't want to change anything. Well then, nothing is going to change, why would it? It wouldn't right? You need to be open to new concepts. You need to be open to looking at the way you do things and finding out if there's a better way.
I'll do a whole other video on this but something I call Nonsensical Rules that we live by, that we were raised on, that were taught to us, by well-meaning people all our lives but they're really Nonsensical because they really don't apply to us now at our stage in life. We need to grow out of some of those rules. Anyway, that's a whole other video but I just want you to be aware of it. That you do need to be open to change. You may have to change the way you think, you may have to change the way you eat, you may have to change your sleeping patterns, you may have to change any number of things. But, you have to be open to it. Alright? so, be open to it.

Number 4. of what we fear about success is: Losing something.
Fear of losing something. A fear of losing friends, family, lifestyle. You may lose some friends but you always have. Very few people have the friends from birth that they have twenty, thirty, forty, fifty, sixty years later. Because people grow apart. That's just a fact of life. Nothing wrong with it. I've grown apart from many of my friends. We can still run in to each other, you know, through a common friend or whatever and we can sit down and have a good time. But we're not close anymore. And that's fine, nothing wrong with that. Family members it gets a little harder but sometimes yes you do need to move on from a family member if they are so negative and dragging you down. Really slamming everything that you're trying to do. You may need to distance yourself some. And you probably will have to distance yourself some. I'm not going to beat around the bush, you do. I'm trying to be a little ... you know, I'm not hitting it. I'm trying to be gentle about it and that's not what we need here. We need honesty and of course integrity. Yes, you do need to leave the negative people behind and certainly at the very least distance yourself so you're not around them as often.
Lifestyle. Here's a big one for people that want to start a new business. They're really excited, they have an idea for a business or want to model themselves after a business of somebody that they admire because they help people, they make a good living and all of these warm and fuzzy things to improve their family's life and so on and so forth. meanwhile, they're afraid that they have to quit their job and they're going to lose their lifestyle. They might lose their home, they might lose their whatever along the way. You don't have to lose everything along the way. You hear this all so often. People talking about they had a dream to start a business and they walked in to work one day and say, to hell with it, I quit, I'm out of here. Lost my car, lost my house, lost everything and then within two years or whatever, started my own business and I have a better car, a better house ... you know whatever.
That's all well and good but hey, let's be responsible for ourselves and our family as much as you possibly can. Let's think about it. Let's plan it out. So, in other words, you may say, in six months from now, I'm going to stop working or, I'm going to work part time and I'm going to start this business and yes, I'm going to be a little busier, but I'm going to start the business part-time. In six months from now I want to be at the state where I can stop working for the other guy and start working my own business. Now, you have 6 months to develop skills. You have six months to learn a great deal of information that will transition you from one to the other. And, you have six months to say, you know what? I'm earning X numbers of dollars. The true transition comes by the way, when you realize how much money do I need to exist from month to month. What is my rent/mortgage whatever, how much is my car payments whatever, how much for food, all of this stuff. When you get that sort of base amount, Let's just say, two thousand dollars. Well, when my part-time business that I'm running gets me around that two thousand dollar mark, I know I can stop working now. I know I can throw myself in to the business because if I'm making two thousand a month right now part time, I should be able to quadruple that working it full time.
So, it's just another idea of how to not fear losing your lifestyle. Do so with intelligence. Do so with intention and intelligence.

5. Programming Fears.
This is horrible. I've dealt with this too many times with one on one clients and I know I'm going to continue to deal with it. These are things that we were told growing up. These are the writings on our wall. And that's in your head. These are beliefs that we have. Again, these are Nonsensical Rules a little bit different than just the Nonsensical Rules these are beliefs that we've had because we are told some horrendous stuff. We were told, you’re not pretty enough, you’re not smart enough, you’re not good enough. all of the kinds of "Your Nots" end up sticking with us. End up staying with us. For decades they stay with us. In our hearts we probably know it's not true. And if I'm not good looking enough, do I need to be? What do I need to be good looking for? You know? That's foolishness! If I'm not smart enough, well, how smart do I need to be? You can look around and everywhere you are and you can say, everything I see was created by people who are probably not even as smart as I am. How smart does one need to be. It is terrible, it's stuff that slows us down. Are these foolish beliefs that often people told us out of anger or spite or meanness or even as a joke. I've dealt with clients that a family member was joking with them and they took it to heart. But they realized that they were just kind of joking.

So those are the five different fears. Now let's talk a few minutes about how to eliminate these fears of success. One method is to just sit and write them all out. Think about what it is that you want to do and feel the fear around it and write them down. See what they actually are. Am I afraid of people around me laughing at me? My husband, my wife, my son my daughter, my parents are they going to laugh at me? And then, write down, what if they do? That is sort of .. I'm going to call that sort of a childish type of fear. Grow beyond it. Grow beyond it. We're not in the playground anymore. They're not going to point and giggle. They're not going to stand around and call you names, probably. If they do you deal with it. Do you see what I'm saying? Most of the fears that we have are not really that serious. And you have a fear of it being too hard. Educate yourself. Read books, take a course watch more of Michael Edward's videos. Whatever you need to do to learn what you need to learn to make it less hard. Write it down! If that's a fear that you have. Write down, why is it too hard and what can you do to overcome it. Make a plan and then start overcoming it.
Fear of change. Why are you fearing change? My god, write it down. Write down, what is so fearful about changing something. About opening your mind, about learning something, about changing something.
Same thing about fear of losing something. I think we covered that pretty well in point four.
Point five was the programming. Programming can be a little tougher because now we are dealing with the heavy emotional side of things. Again, you can just write them down and say, why do I feel like I'm not good enough? Is it because grandpa said I wasn't good enough? Or a teacher said I wasn't good enough? In what context did the teacher tell me I wasn't good enough? And then you start to realize that ok, so I wasn't good at math. I'm not going to start a business teaching math because I'm not good at math. . Doesn't mean that I'm not good at many many other things. It doesn't mean that I don't know a whole lot about gardening. so, I'm going to write a book and teach people about gardening or create a video on how to garden. You know what I'm saying? Try to figure out the context to which you feel like you weren't good enough or whatever the issue may be. Write them down, again, find out if they're real and if they're not real. If they're not real discard them. If they are real then you need to get rid of them. You get rid of them by either developing skills to prove that you are not incompetent at something or you need a releasing technique. If you go to my website soon, I haven't got it up yet frankly but will be putting up a program there and it's not going to be wide open to everybody because it takes a lot of my time. I will be working one on one with my high end coaching clients of course, using a releasing technique that helps remove the negative emotion around all of this stuff and much much much more. Usually with my one on one clients we end of working together for a couple of hours  over a couple of weeks. So If I'm going to be booking in an hour, it's going to take an hour of my time plus etc. etc. What I suggest is you go to MePersonalDevelopment.com and you get on the email list. So that when I do open it up, you can jump in there pick up that course and books some sessions with me so that we can remove the negative feeling that you have around these fears and many many others to allow you to feel good, to feel confident, and allow you to move ahead on your dream. go to MePersonalDevelopment.com and join the email list. Because that's where I'll be putting it out when I add it to the website.

Now, I want you to go out there, I want you to Enjoy every day, Love all you can and Succeed.